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# [Episode 114: From BS to Heartbreak "The Four Attachment Styles: How You Love and Why"](https://www.sandralenasilverman.com/sandra-lena-silverman-blog/episode-114-from-bs-to-heartbreak-the-four-attachment-styles-how-you-love-and-why)

 Written by [Sandra Silverman](https://www.sandralenasilverman.com/sandra-lena-silverman-blog/author/sandra-silverman-1) | Jan 7, 2026 12:38:23 AM

Most of us don’t wake up one day and decide to repeat the same relationship patterns — it just happens. That’s why understanding attachment styles can be so powerful.

In this episode, **Jennifer Clearwaters** walked us through the four attachment styles and how they influence the way we love, argue, withdraw, and connect. What I appreciated most is her reminder that attachment styles are not labels — they’re learned responses.

Awareness doesn’t mean blame.  
It means choice.

When you understand your attachment style, you stop personalizing behaviors that were never about worth — and you start making decisions rooted in clarity instead of fear.

 

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