Episode 108: Red Light Therapy + Laws of Attraction

Some episodes of Party’s Over feel like a glow-up from the inside out — and Episode 108 is exactly that. Today, we explored two topics that so many of you ask me about: red light therapy and how your self-worth shapes the people you attract. And of course… we ended with a very juicy “Spill It” question that took us straight into threesome territory. (Yes, you read that right.)

Whether you're here for skincare solutions, relationship breakthroughs, or just honest girl-talk, this episode was all about empowerment — feeling good in your skin, trusting your intuition, and raising your vibration so the right people recognize you when you walk in the room.

  • Red Light Therapy: What It Is, What It Does, and Why I Swear By It

    If you’ve never tried red light therapy — or if you’ve seen the devices and wondered, Does this actually work? — I hear you. I was skeptical too.

    But red light therapy has transformed my skin. With consistent use (10 minutes a day), I’ve seen:

    • Smoother skin texture
      Fewer fine lines
      More collagen
      Better overall tone

    • Even some improvement in stubborn pigmentation

    And yes — it’s 100% non-invasive, painless, and can be done right at home. No needles. No downtime. No appointment needed.

    Erica jumped in with great questions, especially about sensitivity and heat. The big takeaway?

    If your skin is inflamed, irritated, or reacting to anything — wait.
     Always treat inflammation first.

    The devices we used in the episode were from Omnilux — a brand I like because of their warranty — but you can find many affordable options. I always say: read reviews, trust your skin, and stay consistent.

    You can use red light therapy on your:

    • Face
    • Neck
    • Décolleté

    • Hands (the one area people forget — and the one area that reveals your age fast!)

    If you’re using it while wearing makeup… honestly? I’ve done it. And it still worked for me.

    The Vibes You Give Off Shape the Love You Attract

    After our skincare deep dive, we shifted gears into something equally transformative: self-worth and attraction.

    Here’s the heart of what we discussed:

    When you haven’t fully healed — when you’re exhausted, anxious, insecure, or vibrating low — you attract people who match that vibration. Often people who drain you.
    When you begin doing the work — therapy, boundaries, movement, community, whatever helps you reconnect with you — the energy you give off changes. And the relationships you attract change too.

    Erica shared her powerful story:

    • She left a marriage that wounded her

    • Took two years to rebuild her sense of self

    • Went to therapy

    • Found her groove again

    • Reconnected with joy and routine

    • And then — without even looking for it — met a man who was the complete opposite of what she thought she wanted

    And guess what? He’s wonderful. Kind. Warm. A match to her new vibration.

    Because she wasn’t seeking someone to complete her — she was already whole.

    Meanwhile, I’m working with Spicy Mari — the relationship coach you met a few episodes back — and she has me on a 90-day “no dating” reset. Why? So I don’t repeat old patterns… and so I can call in a partner who actually aligns with the woman I am now.

    Here’s the simplest summary of the episode:

    Whatever vibe you give off, you will attract. Low-vibration energy attracts low-vibration people. Confidence attracts confidence. Clarity attracts clarity. Self-love attracts someone who can love you well.

    Spill It: “My Boyfriend Wants a Threesome…”

    Ohhhh yes. This week’s letter did not hold back.

    A viewer wrote in:

    “My boyfriend wants a three-way with me and my girlfriend.
    I’m tempted to say yes — but only if he'll do one with me and his golf buddy.
    Fair trade?”

    Here’s the summary of our advice:

    No. Absolutely not. Hard. No.

    Vita and I have seen this go wrong every possible way:

    • Someone gets insecure

    • Someone gets jealous

    • Someone gets left out

    • Someone starts wanting threesomes all the time

    • Someone catches feelings

    • The relationship implodes

    If you are in a serious, committed partnership, introducing a third person — emotionally, sexually, energetically — is a grenade with no safety pin.

    Is it a “fair trade”? Maybe technically. But is it good for your relationship? No.

    If you want a healthy long-term partnership: Don’t start the relationship on chaos mode.

    And if you’re already thinking about the golf buddy… well… that’s another episode.

    Key Takeaways From Episode 108

    1. Consistency beats everything.
       Red light therapy only works when you actually use it.
    2. Your energy is your first language.
       Before you even speak, you broadcast how you feel about yourself.
    3. Do the work before you date.
       Self-worth determines who you attract — and who you tolerate.
    4. Protect your peace.
       Especially in your relationships.
      Not everyone deserves access to you.
    5. If it feels chaotic… it probably is.
       Especially in the bedroom.
     
  • Final Thoughts
  • You deserve a life — and a relationship — that feels good on the inside, not just looks good on the outside. Whether you're caring for your skin or caring for your heart, your daily routine becomes your destiny.

    Glow from the inside.
    Attract from the inside.
    Protect your peace from the inside.

    You are worth all of it.

    If you loved this episode, share it with a friend who needs a little glow-up — inside or out.
    Subscribe so you never miss a new episode, and don’t forget to grab my book From BS to Botox.

    Follow me on Instagram @sandralenasilverman, and keep sending your Spill It letters. I love answering them — even the wild ones.

    Party’s Over… but only until next time. 💋

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