Every week, Spill It gives women a place to tell the truth out loud — the truth they often don’t feel safe saying anywhere else. And in Part C of Episode 119 of Party’s Over, we received one of those letters that stops you in your tracks.
A woman wrote to say she loves her husband. He’s her partner. Her family. Her life.
But she no longer feels physically attracted to him… because he has stopped taking care of himself.
And she is terrified of where that leaves them.
She’s afraid she might be tempted.
She’s afraid saying something will hurt him.
She’s afraid saying nothing will hurt her.
And that kind of fear is lonely.
Here’s what I told her — and what I want every woman to know:
You don’t fix pain with betrayal.
You don’t protect a marriage by going silent.
And you don’t honor love by pretending you’re okay when you’re not.
This isn’t about being superficial. It’s about connection. Energy. Health. Presence. Intimacy. It’s about wanting the person you love to still choose themselves — because it affects how you show up for each other.
Have the conversation.
Have it gently.
Have it kindly.
Have it like someone who still wants the marriage to grow — not someone who wants to punish.
And be curious about him too. Is he depressed? Lost? Exhausted? Hurt? Aging is emotional. Life is heavy. Sometimes “letting yourself go” is actually a cry for help.
Relationships need tending. Bodies need care. And love needs truth.
Part A deals with mindful eating and obsession.
Part B takes you behind the curtain of reality TV.
And Part C is one of the rawest marriage letters we’ve ever read.
👉 Subscribe
👉 Share this with someone silently struggling
👉 And if you want deeper conversations about beauty, identity, power, and truth, my book From BS to Botox is waiting for you
Love deserves honesty.