Sometimes the things we think are “helping” us are actually stressing us out, stealing our joy, and disconnecting us from our own lives. In this episode of Party’s Over, Vita and I dove into two huge illusions women are constantly battling: the pressure to count every calorie we put in our mouths… and the lie that reality television is “real life.” And we wrapped with a Spill It letter that hits right at the heart of marriage, love, attraction, and honesty.
Let’s just say… we went there.
We invited registered dietitian Jackie Kirson to talk honestly about calorie counting… and she did not hold back.
Here’s the truth: Calorie counting can work. But only sometimes. And rarely forever.
Most of us have been there — we start with great intentions, we feel “good” when we’re “good,” and then suddenly the numbers start controlling us. Food becomes math. Meals become performance. And instead of enjoying our lives, we’re stuck inside an app, tracking every bite like it’s a moral decision.
What Jackie offers instead is something radically sane:
Be calorie conscious… not calorie obsessed. Tune into your body. Pay attention to nourishment. Be mindful, not punished. Eat because you want to feel strong, energized, balanced — not because you’re terrified of a number. And if you’re raising kids, especially daughters? Modeling a healthy relationship with food matters more than saying the “perfect” thing.
Then we pivoted, and Vita pulled back the curtain on something most people don’t know:
She used to be a reality TV producer.
Let’s just say: the “reality” in reality TV is a lot more curated than people think.
Producers craft storylines. They decide who the “hero” is. They decide who the “villain” is. They manipulate tone, footage, narrative, and emotion.
People become characters — and those “characters” sometimes follow them into real life. Which means someone’s lowest moment, or most heavily edited moment, becomes their reputation forever. It was a powerful reminder that women don’t just get edited on TV… we get edited in life, too. By culture. By expectations. And sometimes by ourselves.
And then came our Spill It letter.
A woman wrote in to confess something so many women feel but rarely say out loud:
She loves her husband. But she’s not attracted to him anymore because he’s stopped taking care of himself. She’s scared of being tempted by someone else… and she has no idea how to talk to him about it.
Here’s what I told her:
❌ Don’t cheat.
✔️ Don’t shame him.
✔️ Don’t carry this alone.
✔️ Talk to him with honesty, compassion, and love.
✔️ Try reconnecting, moving together, being healthy together — not from judgment, but from wanting more for your life and marriage.
Relationships are living things. They need care, conversation, courage, vulnerability, and yes… attraction matters. But kindness matters more.
Whether we’re talking about food, our bodies, marriage, or media… the theme is the same:
Stop letting outside forces control your life. Stop chasing perfection. Stop believing the edited version of reality.
You deserve joy. You deserve honesty. You deserve to feel powerful in your own body, your own marriage, and your own mind.
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Let’s keep telling the truth. Let’s keep laughing. And let’s keep evolving — together.