Let’s talk about something so many of us have done — sometimes for years, sometimes for decades — without ever really questioning it.
Calorie counting.
In Part A of Episode 119 of Party’s Over, Vita and I sat down with registered dietitian Jackie Kirson, and we had one of the most honest conversations I’ve ever had about food, bodies, health… and the emotional price women pay trying to get it “right.”
Here’s the thing:
Calorie counting can work. But the question is — at what cost?
For so many of us, it starts as a tool. Then slowly, it becomes a system of judgment. Food stops being nourishment and becomes a math problem. We stop asking How does my body feel? and start asking, Did I hit the number? Am I “good” today? Have I failed?
And that’s not health.
That’s pressure dressed up as discipline.
Jackie said something I loved:
👉 Be calorie conscious… not calorie obsessed.
That means paying attention. Caring. Nourishing your body. Wanting to feel energized, strong, balanced, and well — without letting numbers run your life. It also means modeling sanity for our kids, especially our daughters, so they grow up connected to their bodies instead of policing them.
Food is not a moral test.
Your worth is not measured in points, grams, or numbers on an app.
Your life deserves joy. Meals deserve pleasure. Your body deserves compassion.
To nourish instead of punish.
To listen instead of judge.
To choose sanity, health, and wholeness over obsession.
In Episode 119 of Party’s Over, we don’t just talk food. We talk reality TV illusions and, in Spill It, one of the rawest letters we’ve ever read.
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We don’t need perfection. We need peace.