There are few words that can shift the energy in a relationship faster than prenup.
I’ve seen it happen — not just once, but over and over again. What begins as excitement, commitment, and hope suddenly becomes anxiety, defensiveness, and fear. And that’s because prenuptial agreements aren’t just legal documents. They’re emotional ones.
In this segment of Party’s Over, I sit down with my friend Erica to talk honestly about why prenups are so complicated — especially for women.
We talk about the timing first. Too often, prenups are introduced right before a wedding, when emotions are high and pressure is real. That’s not protection — that’s duress. When someone is asked to sign a life-altering agreement days or weeks before getting married, consent becomes murky at best.
Then there’s the power imbalance.
In many cases, one partner has significantly more financial leverage than the other. The agreement may be framed as “standard” or “just in case,” but what it really communicates is control. And control has no place in a loving partnership.
We also discuss sliding-scale prenup clauses — agreements that assign a dollar amount to years of marriage. Five years equals this amount. Ten years equals that. It turns commitment into a countdown clock, and it quietly places a price tag on a person’s worth.
What makes this even harder is that many women sign these agreements without fully understanding the long-term consequences. They’re told it’s fine. They’re told it’s romantic to trust love over money. They’re told they’ll never need to worry about it.
Until life happens.
Money changes people. Divorce changes people. And documents that once felt theoretical suddenly become painfully real.
This isn’t about saying prenups are always wrong. It’s about asking better questions.
Do both people want it — genuinely?
Is it fair?
Is it transparent?
Does it protect both partners, not just one?
Because marriage isn’t supposed to be a transaction. It’s a partnership. And if an agreement undermines trust before the wedding even begins, that’s something worth paying attention to.
You deserve to enter any commitment with clarity, confidence, and dignity.
Anything less?
Party’s over.
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